gray skies, cool my fire

Jun 22, '08 7:44 AM
for everyone

I'm a sucker for syntax.

I was looking at my multiply's inbox, mindlessly scrolling down from update to update when I chanced upon one of my friends' posts, with the the words "love of my life" in the subject. I read it over and over again and chewed on it. What does it mean when someone declares someone else the love of their life? How much more powerful is it compared to being called someone's beloved? Someone's love? It's probably interchangeable, but since I'm bored and tend to always think too much, I bothered to figure out its nuances. After all, it feels all grand when someone says the love of my life.

*Thinks*

Maybe when someone says that a person is the love of their life -- and that is, if they really mean it -- it seems that the love goes beyond the person. It escapes the one saying it, and transcends to his entire life: my entire life loves you, every aspect of my life loves you. You are the love of my life.

It sort of seems obsessive when taken in another way; it's bordering on making everything revolve around the love of one's life. Still, I think it's beautiful when taken carefully. You are the love of my life; my life loves you -- it's like saying I love you a million times over; it's like I love you coupled with my parents, my family, my cat loves you and my dreams love you, my job loves you and the nasty, embarrassing aspects of my person loves you.

When someone is declared to be the love of their life, it's like saying my past loves you, my present loves you, and my future loves you.

I'm probably blowing things over. It's one line with four words. Then again, that's probably it -- I always say "I love you" is such a heavy, meaningful three-word-combo that should only be used sparingly. Three words that should mean a lot and not just thrown around everytime your heart suddenly skips a beat.

With that, though, I guess it's only logical that the four words of love of my life is greater in value.

So how do you know if someone is the Love of your Life?

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maymartinez wrote on Jun 22

hayy.. true, true, "love of my life" connotes forever. i remember a philo teacher saying "why do humans have a notion of forever? it's not something anyone of us has experienced. or felt. or seen. and yet we have a notion of it."

joellestyles wrote on Jun 22

i think its when he/ she is "the best one of the best ones"... when you go through several other loves after that one but he/ she is still the one that you loved the most at the end of it all..."the one that got away".. :)

lovelynerdymonchy wrote on Jun 22

call me bitter, but tha last time someone told me IM the love of HIS life he turned out to be a complete liar..

He didn't love my past, therefore
He stopped loving me at present, to think
He said he'll love me forever,
Everything, my past, my present, my future.

rainsong wrote on Jun 22

maymartinez said

why do humans have a notion of forever? it's not something anyone of us has experienced. or felt. or seen. and yet we have a notion of it

Guuhhh so true. Forever's such a scary prospect honestly. I guess when love is genuine, it'll last forever (or at least feels that way) -- so maybe that's where the notion of forever comes from? People who love truly know of forever.

Haha, that sounded like a hallmark card.

rainsong wrote on Jun 22

The one that got away sends shivers down my spine T__T haha!

rainsong wrote on Jun 22

I think it's only fair that we don't blame ourselves for others' jerknesses ^__^

crisgee wrote on Jun 22

Cue:

"ooh... love of mah liiiife!"

joanameetnan wrote on Jun 22

i really like your post :D seriously..

rainsong wrote on Jun 23

"destined foreveeeeerrrrrhhh..
I will be right here by your saa-hiiide"

rainsong wrote on Jun 23

haha thanks joana :P

audreytong wrote on Jun 24

maymartinez said

"why do humans have a notion of forever? it's not something anyone of us has experienced. or felt. or seen. and yet we have a notion of it."

ey mikes! nice entry.:D

diba we always refer to anything and everything in relation to something? like darkness as the absence of light, like lightness is the lack of weight, and so on. so since we, humans, have the perception of mortality, we tend to imagine or try to perceive the opposite, which is immortality, meaning, to live FOREVER.

but saying forever is so romantically overrated. not that i'm a cynic or i'm not even gonna use it. it really feels good. it's just that, we also say that forever renders some things meaningless because there's always a next time, that there will ALWAYS be time to forgive, to love, etc.

lovelynerdymonchy wrote on Jun 28

rainsong said

I think it's only fair that we don't blame ourselves for others' jerknesses ^__^

indeed :P

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